My Wife’s Low Sex Drive Problem (Part I)
If you are a Newlywed, you probably aren't reading this right now. Couples who are recently in love and/or married are too busy practicing making babies to read about increasing their sex drive. Simply put; they don't need any help.
But you ARE reading this and you ARE curious about restoring, rekindling or simply increasing the low sex drive of your wife. Chances are she wasn't always like this. The shift could have been a gradual decline over a few years or she might have changed in an instant. In either case, you aren't satisfied with your sex life and it's time to change things-right now.
Before we give you the 7 key steps to making your wife horny, it is important to look back to your past and determine where you were, when your intimacy declined and what other circumstances were involved.
- Your Past. Think back to BEFORE your marriage. You were dating, you fell in love and you had intercourse. How often did you consummate your relationship? How long did it take you to 'get it right' and figure out each other's rhythm and pace? When you reflect upon your BEST sex, where were you, what were your circumstances and what qualities made you feel in love?
- The Decline. What span of time did it take for your wife's libido to decline? Was it months, years or did it seem to shift overnight? How long ago did this decline take place? If it was recent, you may be able to determine the cause quickly and change things. If it was a while ago, reach back into your memories and pull up the data so we can get to the root cause.
- Extenuating Circumstances. Nothing happens without a cause. People change, of course. But what causes that change? There are external and internal forces which can cause these changes.
External forces can be anything from the loss of a job, friend or relative or as seemingly benign as one of her friends having a bad day. Certainly YOUR behavior or attitude can also affect hers, or the kid's needs transformed her from a hot wife into a frumpy mom. These external forces can cause psychological changes in a woman. They can change her attitude, mental stability and even her judgment.
These forces can cause physical changes too, including depression, anxiety, and weight gain, to name a few. Often, these physical changes circle back and accelerate the depression or negative feelings of self-worth, adding to your wife's low sex drive.
Once you pinpoint the root cause of her sex drive decline, when it happened and how long it took, you are prepared to turn the situation around. You must fix what is REALLY wrong and not attempt to simply 'make her horny' with the introduction of some quick fix, foreplay trick, flowers or chocolates (although those are ingredients you will use along the way!). When you talk to her about these issues, do it clinically, non-judgmentally and as a friend. The worst thing you can do is complain, beg, plead or show her your frustration. Simply discuss it like a old country doctor; in a matter of fact manner, with a whole lot of empathy.
In Part II, we will not just treat the symptoms of your wife's low sex drive, but remove the root cause like a surgeon removes cancer. For part II, go to the author section, search for Doug Steponin and look for 'My Wife's Low Sex Drive Cure (Part II)'. In the meantime, I hope you enjoy reading "Make Your Wife Hot".
